|Mayhem. Don't let the cuteness fool you.|
Not that he's not all of the above on any given day, but I would say that it's about a 30/70 split on most days. He can do the cutest things in the world like give me an unsolicited "I wuv you, mommy" while looking at me with big blue eyes but then turn around and oh, I don't know, attempt to kill himself by jumping from the top step of my staircase while I rush up the steps to catch his falling body because he "want to try and fwy wike Iwon Man." *Face-palm*
Today we went to the zoo which always seems to be the scene of some of the most epic meltdowns. Actually you can insert any public place with a lot of people into where "zoo" is and it will work; church, grocery store, you name it. Today, he had a meltdown when I asked him what he wanted for lunch (he didn't want to eat and opted instead to wander around with the pack of geese begging other people for food), when I went to change his diaper (there were flies in the bathroom that were flying in his face while he tried to squirm his way off the changing table and into a major head injury. Completely delusional. There were no flies near his face.) and when I tried to strap him into his stroller (he wanted to wander away and get kidnapped and I prefer him to be alive and living with us instead of under some crazy person's staircase.) I KNOW! Can I be more unreasonable??
Are you thinking of having kids? My advice today? DON'T. If you have kids. Sorry, suckers. I'm there with you on being sold a crap piece of real estate. "Oh My God...kids are soooooo great! They're awesome!!" said all your friends who had kids. Amirite?? Effing jerks. They KNEW kids were troublesome, belligerent little midgets who eat your food and laugh at your tears. They WANTED you to be as miserable as THEY are. What do I want for my birthday? A time machine so I can go back to when my parents asked my husband and I what we wanted for a wedding gift and I can change my answer from "A combination quesedilla/margarita maker" to "a his and hers sterilization kit."
I wish I wrote the following lessons. I'm jealous and pissed that I didn't think of it first actually and want to be best friends with the author. My kind of sick humored individual. If you are thinking of having kids I strongly recommend that you read the following advice and really get an understanding of what you're committing to. If you have kids, I strongly recommend that you read the following because it will probably make you wet your pants with laughter. I distinctly remember laughing so hard I was crying when I read about taking the goats to the supermarket. For those of you who have opted not to have children, you're brilliant and I hate you. Have fun eating a hot meal, going out on a whim, and completing a book within less than a year. Please also enjoy the old age home that the state will put you in after you break a hip in the shower and slip into a coma since you won't have any asshole children to make that decision for you. Too harsh? Well excuse my bitterness because you didn't have to prevent your 2-year old son from trying to climb out the top of the Ferris wheel cart in Ocean City while it was at it's highest effing point. True story. With the death wish this kid has, I should have named him Charles Bronson. Anyway, enjoy.
11 Step Program for those thinking about having kids.
1. Go to the grocery store.
2. Arrange to have your salary paid directly to their head office.
3. Go home.
4. Pick up the paper.
5. Read it for the last time.
Before you finally go ahead and have children, find a couple who already are parents and berate them about their...
1. Methods of discipline.
2. Lack of patience.
3. Appallingly low tolerance levels.
4. Allowing their children to run wild.
5. Suggest ways in which they might improve their child's breastfeeding, sleep habits, toilet training, table manners, and overall behavior.
Enjoy it because it will be the last time in your life you will have all the answers.
A really good way to discover how the nights might feel...
1. Get home from work and immediately begin walking around the living room from 5PM to 10PM carrying a wet bag weighing approximately 8-12 pounds, with a radio turned to static (or some other obnoxious sound) playing loudly. (Eat cold food with one hand for dinner)
2. At 10PM, put the bag gently down, set the alarm for midnight, and go to sleep.
3. Get up at 12 and walk around the living room again, with the bag, until 1AM.
4. Set the alarm for 3AM.
5. As you can't get back to sleep, get up at 2AM and make a drink and watch an infomercial.
6. Go to bed at 2:45AM.
7. Get up at 3AM when the alarm goes off.
8. Sing songs quietly in the dark until 4AM.
9. Get up. Make breakfast. Get ready for work and go to work (work hard and be productive)
Repeat steps 1-9 each night. Keep this up for 3-5 years. Look cheerful and together.
Can you stand the mess children make? T o find out...
1. Smear peanut butter onto the sofa and jam onto the curtains.
2. Hide a piece of raw chicken behind the stereo and leave it there all summer.
3. Stick your fingers in the flower bed.
4. Then rub them on the clean walls.
5. Take your favorite book, photo album, etc. Wreck it.
6. Spill milk on your new pillows. Cover the stains with crayons. How does that look?
Dressing small children is not as easy as it seems.
1. Buy an octopus and a small bag made out of loose mesh.
2. Attempt to put the octopus into the bag so that none of the arms hang out.
Time allowed for this - all morning.
Forget the BMW and buy a mini-van. And don't think that you can leave it out in the driveway spotless and shining. Family cars don't look like that.
1. Buy a chocolate ice cream cone and put it in the glove compartment.
Leave it there.
2. Get a dime. Stick it in the CD player.
3. Take a family size package of chocolate cookies. Mash them into the back seat. Sprinkle cheerios all over the floor, then smash them with your foot.
4. Run a garden rake along both sides of the car.
Go to the local grocery store. Take with you the closest thing you can find to a pre-school child. (A full-grown goat is an excellent choice). If you intend to have more than one child, then definitely take more than one goat. Buy your week's groceries without letting the goats out of your sight. Pay for everything the goat eats or destroys. Until you can easily accomplish this, do not even contemplate having children.
1. Hollow out a melon.
2. Make a small hole in the side.
3. Suspend it from the ceiling and swing it from side to side.
4. Now get a bowl of soggy Cheerios and attempt to spoon them into the swaying melon by pretending to be an airplane.
5. Continue until half the Cheerios are gone.
6. Tip half into your lap. The other half, just throw up in the air.
You are now ready to feed a nine- month-old baby.
Learn the names of every character from Sesame Street , Barney, Disney, the Teletubbies, and Pokemon. Watch nothing else on TV but PBS, the Disney channel or Noggin for at least five years. (I know, you're thinking What's 'Noggin'?) Exactly the point.
Make a recording of Fran Drescher saying 'mommy' repeatedly. (Important: no more than a four second delay between each 'mommy'; occasional crescendo to the level of a supersonic jet is required). Play this tape in your car everywhere you go for the next four years. You are now ready to take a long trip with a toddler.
Start talking to an adult of your choice. Have someone else continually tug on your skirt hem, shirt- sleeve, or elbow while playing the 'mommy' tape made from Lesson 10 above. You are now ready to have a conversation with an adult while there is a child in the room.
So in light of all I've learned (or not learned apparenlty), next year we're planning on going to Disney World with my whole family. I'm already packed and I'm traveling light; sunscreen, boxed wine, Jack Daniels and several bottles of anti-anxiety meds and muscle relaxers. Happiest place on earth? You bet your ass.